There are two things that go hand in hand making who the person is today. These are confidence and self esteem. If the person is unaware of one's potential or what he or she can become, the term given to someone is a loser. Nobody wants to be called a loser but unfortunately, there are a few in society.
These are the people who dont have any ambition or drive in life, cant hold a job and most of the time are unemployed. This is the reason that self esteem and confidence should be built from the ground up as a child.
There will be challenges in life and someone who is get up again after falling down is what separates the men from the boys. A good deed should never be given the proper acknowledgement. Parents should always tell the teen if he or she has done a good job. The best way to do it is by being very specific. An "A" for example on the report card can be displayed on the fridge. A medal or a trophy won in a competition can be placed frame or a case. This is something the person can look at to reminisce such a time and be used as a driving force for future challenges. The positive attitude one has can also serve as inspiration to others. Parents can also teach the children to be optimistic about life despite the many setbacks. Studies have shown that this type of attitude strengthens ones ability to do just about anything which is much better than feeling depressed.
Some people have it while others don't. One of the many gifts that people have is individuality. Parents who have children who are fit should not tease or name call those who are fat. Just imagine how the person would feel if the situation was reversed. The same thing goes when the teen is given a task. The parents can show signs of disapproval in a better way by explaining that it needs more improvement instead of striking the person down which will later develop signs of anger and resentment. It is one thing to give praise in front of the child. It is another to say something different to others. There must be consistency. No one has the perfect son or daughter at home.
However, there is always a better way of expressing one's feelings without hurting someone else especially when that individual is family. A lot of people believe that the youth are the future. If this is so, parents, teachers and friends should do more that just pay lip service to build confidence and self esteem.
Parents should be more active by participating in things that the child enjoys. Students not doing in school should be given more attention than those who are can do it without assistance. Friends should be more understanding. All of these people play a significant role in the person's development and hanging around with the right crowd will really help in the long term.
Believe it or not, life is a gamble. There are victors and there are losers. With self esteem comes confidence and that is something that can never be read in any textbook but taught and instilled in the minds of the youth.